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How to Stop 'Shoulding' All Over Yourself

Should verb: used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's actions or what is probable. -Oxford Dictionary

I would like to counter that definition with this:

Should guilt trip: commonly used to motivate improved behavior, but usually results in guilt, judgement, negative self talk, and a general feeling of never being enough. 

Which definition do you resonate with the most? If you relate to the latter, then this post is for you. 

If I had a nickel for every time I asked someone about a self care task and they responded with not just a "no" but a "Well, no, but I know I should," I would be a rich, rich woman.  

For some reason, the word should has evolved from a suggested critique to a first class ticket on the guilt trip train. It's also become an excuse or a sort of dance around from doing the actual thing. It's like if you state that you know you should, that somehow makes it OK that you haven't been doing it. 

The truth is, we all should up the place. We all have things we want to be doing that we aren't. We all have room for healthier and wiser habits in our life. But the other truth is that trying to should our way into health and happiness just doesn't work.

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