Posts tagged self care practice
podcast 20: your self care non-negotiable

Starting new habits can be extremely overwhelming. Especially when you’ve been doing “not so great” habits for a while and want to replace them with healthier ones. It’s easy to want to apply the “all or nothing” mentality to incorporating your self care practices because you are ready for results and you want them now. But most of the time, this way of going about it isn’t very sustainable.

In this episode, I talk about setting non-negotiable self care habit. One doable thing that you will do every day to meet your self care goals. Take a listen to learn how this game changing habit can make self care simpler and more enjoyable.

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the best self care tip of all time

While self care is extremely personal, today I'm going to give you the best self care tip I can think of when you are in a pinch. My number one go to self care to-do. What I do when overwhelm and chaos strikes, and I don't know what else to do. 

Now, I could go on and on about the scientific data and personal experience as to why this is so important. Why we must make time for it. How much it can do to refresh and recharge your body and mind. How it will give you so much clarity on how to move forward with your healing journey. 

But that would be taking away from its beauty. Its amazingness. Its profound simplicity. So I need you to just trust me. 

And instead I will tell you this secret in just two words.


When you read it, be sure to act on it immediately. 

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Q&A Time! Sharing Self Care, Self Care + Anxiety, Meditation Tips

I've had the idea for while now to do a monthly Q&A post, but I wasn't sure if it was something that would be helpful. But after my callout for questions, I was so happy to get your questions and have the opportunity to help you with your self care needs on a more personal level. 

I'm limiting myself to three questions because all of these could be their own standalone post. But the questions that I didn't answer today are in the queue for next month. So not to worry, dear readers. 

And please keep your questions coming. Don't be shy. I love to hear more of how I can help. 

So without further adieu, here we go!

How do we encourage friends or family to invest time in themselves when they are spread thin with running a family?

This can be a tricky one. Most of us have the best intentions when wanting to help our loved ones be happier and healthier, but the danger here is that it often comes across as criticism. And that never goes well. 

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Working Through The Healing Crisis

So you finally made time to get a massage, or try this new treatment plan with your doctor, or even cut out sugar. You saved the money, you've prepped the house, and you emotionally prepared yourself to make a big change. 

And then you go to the treatment, or you give it a good week or so, and instead of feeling better, you actually feel worse! 

While this can feel very defeating and like a waste of time and money, let me suggest that what you are feeling couldn’t be negative at all. It could actually mean you are on the right track, fulling engaging in your healing process. 

Say what?! I know that sounds counterintuitive, but hear me out. 

Now with this, there is a line here that you need to tune in to to determine. You will know if something really isn’t right. But before you automatically jump to that conclusion, there are some other things to consider. 

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Make Forest Bathing a Walk in the Park

When was the last time you laid down on a patch of grass? Not on a lounge chair or even a blanket. But directly onto the earth, relaxing as the sun bathes over you and breathing deeply with the breeze.

Ok, if that seems like a weird thing to do, how about simply going for a walk through nature? A place that is dense with trees and grasses and wildlife. A stroll without phones or music or any other modern distractions. Just pure connection with the nature around you. 

We all know that going outside is good for us and when we finally take the time to do it, it's so refreshing. But oftentimes we dismiss the profound benefits of daily intentional time connecting with the natural world. 

If you think that sounds boring, don't worry, the Japanese have turned it into a hip new thing that is now sweeping the nation, and it's called Forest Bathing, or Shinrin-Yoku

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The Way of Course Correction

Ever find yourself on a spacecraft, hurdling through the galaxies, and all of a sudden you miss your trajectory and your location has to be identified and your course vector is calculated and you get on a better, more accurate path?

No? Ok, me either, but sometimes it feels that way, am I right? And if we look past the original space navigation definition of course correction we can learn something valuable about when we miss our trajectory and get off path in our own lives. 

I like to think of course correction as series of curious experiments, and it's become a regular practice in my life. Sometimes it happens because of things out of my control, but most of the time it comes from the constant desire to create a healthy, authentic life. 

The examples I could give are endless. From changing my daily diet to changing careers to changing entire belief systems, I've evolved so much already durning this short life of mine. And though it's been extremely difficult at times, it's been worth every little and big thing I've learned along the way. 

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Self Love Series: How To Date Yourself

When was the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror, gave yourself a wink and asked, "How YOU doin'?" Maybe I've been taking too many notes from Joey Tribbiani, but my self love challenge for you this week is to have a spot of fun by asking yourself out. 

Yes, I mean taking yourself on a date every once in a while. I'm not talking about grabbing a quick lunch alone or binging on Netflix when you are bored. I'm talking about planning a nice period of time with yourself full of some of your favorite things. An evening of giving yourself exactly what you need without any expectations of anyone else. No pity parties for being single, no yearning for your partner to do something nice for you, but just doing your own thing just for kicks. 

To recap for you new readers, the first week of this Self Love Series we covered the why of self love, and last week we covered taking a look at not just loving, but even simply liking who you are. So I thought it would be appropriate to now focus on having a bit of fun with it. And what's more fun than dating?!!! (She asks sarcastically.) 

No, I know dating can be fun at times, but the wonderful thing about dating yourself is that it really can be all fun with no awkward handholding or follow up texts. 

If this idea sounds foreign or intimidating or even ridiculous, have no fear. I've created an easy six step process for you. 

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Self Love Series: Do You Even Like Yourself?

If your immediate answer to this question is "Yes, of course!" then you're good. But if your answer is a hesitant yes, a confused kinda, or a flat out no, then let's talk.

Last week we talked about the why of Self Love, why it is vital to your well being. If you missed it, read up HERE. But before we dig deeper into self love, we gotta figure out if you even like yourself first.

What I mean by "liking yourself" is do you like who you are right now? Do you enjoy spending time by yourself? Do you like your habits? Do you like how you treat others? Do you like how you spend your time? Do you like how you talk to yourself? Do you like how you look? Do you like how you eat? You get the idea.

Taking a look at what you do or how you are on a regular basis can give you a starting point for this whole self love thing. If you don't like how you treat yourself or certain habits or traits, transforming them into things you do like can be an act of self love.

Now, there is wisdom in loving all of yourself, despite your flaws, and noticing what you do like is also important, but if you are looking for a tangible way to starting loving yourself more, you can start working with that you don't like or what isn't in line with who you want to be. 

A simple example is that I don't like my habit of watching a show while I eat lunch. I don't need to watch a show, it ends of taking up more time, and I zone out of enjoying my meal and knowing when I'm really full. So changing that habit would be an act of self love. I love myself and my true desires enough to change habits that don't serve me.

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The Why and How of Staying Hydrated

As a massage therapist, I feel like a broken record when I tell people to stay hydrated and drink more water after a session. People usually smile and nod and say something like, "Oh yeah, I know. I really need to be more hydrated," and then they go on their merry way, business as usual. Dehydrated as usual. 

Now, I'm not perfect at staying optimally hydrated myself, but I do it enough to know that it makes a huge difference in my quality of life and the function of my systems. 

It's crazy to think that water is so simple, yet so versatile. But don't let its simplicity fool you. It is so vital in staying happy and healthy. 

Back in January I wrote a post about how to heal yourself with water that talked about using water in various therapeutic ways during the Winter months. But today I want to keep it even more simple than that. How to enjoy drinking water and staying hydrated and why you should. 

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