Working Through The Healing Crisis

Working Through The Healing Crisis

So you finally made time to get a massage, or try this new treatment plan with your doctor, or even cut out sugar. You saved the money, you've prepped the house, and you emotionally prepared yourself to make a big change. 

And then you go to the treatment, or you give it a good week or so, and instead of feeling better, you actually feel worse! 

While this can feel very defeating and like a waste of time and money, let me suggest that what you are feeling couldn’t be negative at all. It could actually mean you are on the right track, fulling engaging in your healing process. 

Say what?! I know that sounds counterintuitive, but hear me out. 

Now with this, there is a line here that you need to tune in to to determine. You will know if something really isn’t right. But before you automatically jump to that conclusion, there are some other things to consider. 

Make Forest Bathing a Walk in the Park

Make Forest Bathing a Walk in the Park

When was the last time you laid down on a patch of grass? Not on a lounge chair or even a blanket. But directly onto the earth, relaxing as the sun bathes over you and breathing deeply with the breeze.

Ok, if that seems like a weird thing to do, how about simply going for a walk through nature? A place that is dense with trees and grasses and wildlife. A stroll without phones or music or any other modern distractions. Just pure connection with the nature around you. 

We all know that going outside is good for us and when we finally take the time to do it, it's so refreshing. But oftentimes we dismiss the profound benefits of daily intentional time connecting with the natural world. 

If you think that sounds boring, don't worry, the Japanese have turned it into a hip new thing that is now sweeping the nation, and it's called Forest Bathing, or Shinrin-Yoku

The Importance of Nature

The Importance of Nature

Ah, nature. I hope you had a chance to get outside yesterday and celebrate Earth Day in some way. I kind of nerd out over Earth Day and feel the feels when I think about how important it is to take care of this spinning blue dot we call home. 

And so I would like to devote this post to reiterate why it's so important for our health and well-being to connect with nature on a regular basis. 

first of all, real talk about mama earth

As an advanced species that has come to assume we can get whatever we want, whenever we want, we forget that all that we have depends on the health of the planet and its various ecosystems. 

But really, all of the time and energy and resources we have used to build our world could be destroyed by good 'ol Mother Earth at any moment. Just ask the dinosaurs, am I right?

She is a loving, but fierce mama, which is why it is vital to live in accordance with nature instead of forcing it to fit our needs. 

Simple Spring Rituals

Simple Spring Rituals

In honor of this celebratory day of hope and new beginnings, I thought it appropriate to talk about some simple, yet powerful ways to bring in this lovely new season. 

Though most of these you've probably heard of and perhaps have already started doing since Spring rituals tend to happen pretty naturally, it's always nice to have reminders and move forward with refreshed intentions.

cleaning and clearing

Spring cleaning is usually referred to as a household chore, but it's actually a very powerful practice. Winter gathers a lot of stagnant energy. For months we keep the windows and doors of our homes sealed tight as we accumulate dust and clutter and even extra body weight. 

There's nothing necessarily wrong with this, but everything has its season. And the Springtime comes to keep things so fresh and so clean clean, as the hip kids say. 

The actual act of cleaning does more than just clean up the extra dust and grime. It makes space for a new energy. It symbolizes and invites change. And it has proven to help with people's mental and emotional health. 

And Now, Your Celebration Reminder

And Now, Your Celebration Reminder

In my recent observations, it seems that the act of celebrating has taken on the go big or go home mentality. It's turning into an obligatory, big hoopla thing for birthdays, graduations, holidays (that you may or may not resonate with) and other big milestones.

And while I love a good party, and I really do love holidays, what has become of celebrating the everyday victories? Why has it become selfish or shameful or unimportant to celebrate your daily wins and accomplishments? 

I submit that not celebrating yourself and those around you on a daily basis is not OK. For just like I talk about how healing comes in the small, yet profound habits, there is also wisdom in celebrating the everyday victories. 

In a world where we are constantly being told that we are not enough (either by others, the media, or ourselves), the need to pause and truly notice all we do has to become a constant as well. 

If we don't have practices in place to counter the negative self talk and bombardment of not enough-ness, we will find ourselves drowning in the pool of unhappiness. And that is not a very fun pool, as you can imagine. 

So I invite you to take on a "Celebration Practice" of sorts. I've written before about celebration therapy, but here are some more tangible ideas to get you started.

Real Talk About Medication + Pie

Real Talk About Medication + Pie

A friend once told me that true healing is like a pie with many pieces. He had me at 'pie', but I asked him to explain. 

He went on to say that there really isn't one fix-all thing to do when it comes to healing an issue. That there are many pieces that all fit together to create a whole solution. Some pieces are larger than others, but all are required and have a very important purpose. 

He mentioned this analogy in passing many years ago, but it's one I've never forgotten. And I've kept it in mind many times as I've considered various treatments for my own healing journey. Especially lately, but I'll get to that in a moment. 

While there are a lot of pro's and con's to taking medication, there is mostly a negative stigma around it. From viewing it as a personal weakness to horrible side effects to evil big pharma companies to how unaffordable the medication has become. 

And yet, despite how we all seem to feel about it, we frequently treat it like it's the only option and the only solution to treating an issue. We throw in the towel, take the pills, and then get frustrated when it doesn't fix all of the things. 

But what we often forget is that it is only one piece of the pie.

How to Stop 'Shoulding' All Over Yourself

How to Stop 'Shoulding' All Over Yourself

Should verb: used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's actions or what is probable. -Oxford Dictionary

I would like to counter that definition with this:

Should guilt trip: commonly used to motivate improved behavior, but usually results in guilt, judgement, negative self talk, and a general feeling of never being enough. 

Which definition do you resonate with the most? If you relate to the latter, then this post is for you. 

If I had a nickel for every time I asked someone about a self care task and they responded with not just a "no" but a "Well, no, but I know I should," I would be a rich, rich woman.  

For some reason, the word should has evolved from a suggested critique to a first class ticket on the guilt trip train. It's also become an excuse or a sort of dance around from doing the actual thing. It's like if you state that you know you should, that somehow makes it OK that you haven't been doing it. 

The truth is, we all should up the place. We all have things we want to be doing that we aren't. We all have room for healthier and wiser habits in our life. But the other truth is that trying to should our way into health and happiness just doesn't work.

The Way of Course Correction

The Way of Course Correction

Ever find yourself on a spacecraft, hurdling through the galaxies, and all of a sudden you miss your trajectory and your location has to be identified and your course vector is calculated and you get on a better, more accurate path?

No? Ok, me either, but sometimes it feels that way, am I right? And if we look past the original space navigation definition of course correction we can learn something valuable about when we miss our trajectory and get off path in our own lives. 

I like to think of course correction as series of curious experiments, and it's become a regular practice in my life. Sometimes it happens because of things out of my control, but most of the time it comes from the constant desire to create a healthy, authentic life. 

The examples I could give are endless. From changing my daily diet to changing careers to changing entire belief systems, I've evolved so much already durning this short life of mine. And though it's been extremely difficult at times, it's been worth every little and big thing I've learned along the way.